Healing anything begins first with acceptance of the thing you want to heal. If you deny that you need to heal, or believe that you're now too old to heal, or you were born that way, then you will experience the fruit of your belief.
It's also important to note that not every transgender person may experience gender dysphoria, and they may be at peace with their identity and may not seek any healing.
If you have not read the blog describing the causes of gender dysphoria, then I would suggest you to read it first here.
The goal of healing for every person is to experience love and joy in their lives, whether that love and joy is for themselves or for others. Love and Joy are the truth, and your healing journey must take you there.
But here's the paradox, love and joy are not there and then, they are always here and now. They are always available, but we have put conditions on them such as I'll experience joy when I'll be in a relationship and until then I'll remain miserable. The basis of such thinking is that I'll feel content only when I'll have this or that. And the effect of such thinking is that it produces a lot of misery and suffering until your desire is fulfilled if it is fulfilled. You have put the condition on your joy, and you'll reap what you've sown.
If you're experiencing gender dysphoria, then essentially you're not at peace with yourself. There is a conflict between who you are and who you say you are. The body is what it is, it is what nature has given you and will not naturally change. The mind is something which you have conditioned by your thinking and beliefs over several years or decades, and has the possibility to naturally change.
Hence, it sounds logical that healing for gender dysphoria is not transitioning into a different body by surgically altering it, but by renewing the mind to find peace with your body and birth gender. It's to accept and love yourself as you are in the body, and stop trying to find salvation in becoming someone or something else.
Key Areas to work in your inner healing are :-
- Fix the root
Make sure you're not carrying any root beliefs likeit's better or more desirable to be the opposite gender oryou need to be the opposite gender to be loved or accepted. If you find that you are carrying such beliefs, it'd be wise to question your beliefs - how and when did you start developing such beliefs. And when you do come to realize that these beliefs are not truth, you can align your beliefs with the truth.
Whatever we dwell on in our mind does affect our body, including sexual responses. Therefore, to see a change in your bodily desires, you must address the lies that afflict the soul. - Forgiveness
If you have not forgiven someone in your life such as your parents or someone who abused you or anyone else; those emotions of bitterness are still within you and are preventing you from your joy, preventing you from fully being in the present moment. And if you're not joyful in the present moment, you'll keep seeking it in some future event and remain miserable in the present. - Developing Self-acceptance and Self-Love
Often people dealing with gender dysphoria have deep wounds of rejection, and they develop a deep sense of hatred for self and their bodies. They often feel that there's something wrong with them and that they're imperfect. Many feel that having the body of opposite sex is more desirable.
You first need to accept yourself as nature made you in the body. If you can't even accept your own body, how can you feel love for yourself. Your body is the temple you live in, and if you reject it, how can you be at peace with yourself?
- Becoming joyful
The goal in life for everyone is to become joyful in one's own being irrespective of outer circumstances. If your joy is dependent on something outside of you whether it's a relationship, success, money, sex or anything else; it cannot be permanent. There's no guarantee in life whether these outside circumstances will give you joy or not, or that joy will be long-lasting, because joy comes from within and is available right now. The only reason you think you can't be joyful now is because you think you are lacking something, but what if you are not lacking anything, what if it's just societal conditioning.
Don't make the end result(your healing) your primary goal, otherwise you'll end up more frustrated and may miss your goal entirely. Thinking only about the end goal, you miss your present reality as your mind is always in the future, and it's all about creating joy in the present, not in the future. When you create joy in the present and carry it into your entire journey, that will be true healing and is the goal of spiritual journey.
Joy is incredibly healing, and the longer you dwell in joy, the faster your healing will manifest and your life will miraculously change. You will feel a lightness in your being that you never felt before. - Growing in love
Do not try to fight your desires(whether gender dysphoria or sexual desires), as desires will change on their own as you continue walking your healing path. And also, fighting anything just makes it stronger, because your attention is on the lack of something, and whatever you're focused on becomes manifest in your reality.
Bible says - Resist ye not evil.
Rather, grow in love, grow in love for all creation, and fill your heart with love and gratitude, keep all your attention on love (the love that you already have in your life) and gratitude; and all untrue conditioning will come to light and will gradually fall away. - Break addictive behaviours
Healing happens as we walk on the path of change, nothing will change until you change. So, if any addictions(alcohol, drugs, porn etc) are present, understand that your addictions are only masking your pain that you're afraid to face, whether it's the pain of rejection, self-hate, or any insecurity.
But healing won't happen, until you are willing to face that pain head on. You need to go through that pain, understand it, heal it and come out of it stronger. So, do your best to break your addiction, and support yourself on your healing journey.
You can also check out the blogs on addiction here
Daily practices that are recommended -
- Meditation
Meditation helps in gaining distance from our thoughts so that we can see them more clearly as a distant observer. It will also bring whatever emotions are suppressed to the surface such as anger, resentment, hate, insecurity, jealousy etc.
Maintain a daily practice of meditation. Start with whatever feels comfortable to you such as 5-10 minutes and gradually keep increasing the time, until you can meditate for 45 mins comfortably. Time does not matter, but pick a time which will allow you to be consistent. - Abstaining from sex(solo or partnered) for a period of time
This will allow true desires to emerge and sexual healing to happen
As you continue to leave your old self, and put on the new, your will create new connections in your brain that will transform your thinking, and you will recondition your mind, which will eventually affect your emotions and desires, returning to your original design, as God had made you.