Gender Dysphoria is a psychological condition where a person feels significant distress in their life because their gender identity does not align with the sex assigned at their birth. A person born with male anatomy may feel like a female from inside and a person born with female anatomy may feel like a male. This disconnect between their mind and body causes them to feel dissatisfaction with their bodies, social roles and societal expectations related to gender. But it's important to note that not everyone who identifies as trans experiences gender dysphoria.
The experience of each soul is unique, and hence is also unique for every transgender person as well. What is true for one soul may not be true for another, for each one of us is creating our reality from our beliefs, understanding and experiences of many lifetimes, and the traits developed in these lifetimes, and are continually working on growing spiritually.
Some transgender people start developing gender dysphoria in early childhood, others develop a bit later in life, although I believe there's no age limit as to when it can happen.
If a person experiences gender dysphoria or identify themselves as transgender, it is not necessarily an indicator that they were born that way or that God made a mistake, but can indicate that something is out of alignment in their mind and soul i.e they may be carrying some false beliefs in their minds, as I shared above that experience of each soul is unique. It is also possible that they have chosen to come that way to learn some lessons, and hence recall themselves as being trans as long as they can remember.
Whether you identify as transgender since your early life, or you became aware of it in your formative years, or developed it unconsciously in later years, the gender dysphoria may not have to last forever. We as souls have no gender, and all of us possess both masculine and feminine energies, and are free to express whichever energy we want to experience, but we must make sure we are not doing it for any wrong reasons, or from an unhealed place, or are carrying any false beliefs.
Since, human beings are tripart beings - body, mind and soul; our mental and emotional development can influence our physical drives and desires. Painful childhood experiences and responses to trauma can also contribute to development of gender dysphoria.
Gender is what we say we are in our head (I am male, or I am female). Since it is not a physical thing, and is a thought or a belief, it can change, as any thought or belief can change. The body can't change but the thought can change. But it's upto the individual whether they want it to change or not. Change cannot happen unless there is a willingness to change.
Gender Dysphoria is in many cases, a case of "the grass looks greener on the other side", although not always. Sometimes, it can be a case of not accepting the birth gender and embracing all that comes with that gender, and hence is a lesson in acceptance.
At the root, there can be a belief triggered by other beliefs and experiences that says
IT'S BETTER OR MORE DESIRABLE TO BE THE OPPOSITE SEX.
This single thought when believed in for years or decades, cause significant shifts in how a person perceives reality.
But it is a manifestation of identifying yourself too strongly with the gender opposite to your birth gender, the underlying reason may vary person to person.
Below are some of the ways how the misalignment can occur :-
- In cases where some sexual abuse is present, some women may start to believe that males have an advantage in the society, or it's better being a man, and hence becoming a man is a subconscious response for better survival, so that they can't be violated anymore.
- In some cases where males are failing at manhood, they may start to believe that being a female is more desirable or advantageous, or it's better being a female in some aspects such as relationships or sexual aspects, or they believe they are just better at being female.
The cause of failing at manhood can be several such as sexual guilt which may turn into self hatred with time. - Some may be carrying a lot of guilt from even from a past life where they were not there emotionally for their partner of opposite sex, and are now playing out a similar scenario in this life, by identifying themselves mentally with the gender of their past life but having the body of opposite sex, so that they learn to accept and embrace their birth sex, embrace all that goes with that sex. Since now, it's not a separate person but themselves with the body of opposite sex, they can learn to accept and love themselves, so it is an opportunity to let go of the guilt of that past life and also an opportunity to grow in love. The choice of healing is still upto the individual whether they want to identify themselves as trans forever, or let go of their mental identity and start embracing their birth gender fully.
- In some cases, the parents may have wanted a child of the opposite sex and the child may grow up perceiving that they are unwanted and may want to become the opposite sex to gain love and approval of their parents. The child can even sense unacceptance in the womb, and reject their birth gender while growing.
- In some cases, the child may be jealous of a sibling of the opposite sex, which can lead them to become insecure in their own gender.
- Some may see their same-sex parent as weak and undesirable and hence determine, that it's more desirable to be the opposite sex
- Some may deeply believe that there's something wrong with them, and as a result may never be in a relationship; so they themselves try to feel sexually what the opposite sex feels
- For many, it is a combination of several factors
Now it's important to note that not every person reacts to their life situations in above mentioned ways, it very much depends on the individual and how they perceive life and what their beliefs about life, God and people are.
If you carry such beliefs for years or decades, it's natural that these beliefs effect your lives in many aspects, and become subconscious or second-nature in your day to day life, and you start to believe that that's who you are. But it is a suggestion which you have accepted due to some response to your life situation, which now has become your identity.
Gender identity is not a physical thing, it is a thought and hence it can change, as long as you are willing. The words "I AM" are your creative power, and what you attach after it, you can become or manifest. If you think and feel "I AM MALE" for many years or decades, your MALE identity will become dominant and hence, although it can change, but due to thinking and feeling for such a long period of time, is not easy to change, especially when you do not understand how thinking creates your reality.
It does not matter when your gender identity got formed, whether it formed in womb, in early childhood, or later in life, or you carried it into your life for some reason; know that it can definitely change.
It is important to note that not everyone experiences gender dysphoria to the same extent, and many find resolve over the course of life, but those who don't and find their condition getting worse, feel compelled to take other course of actions like hormonal treatment or surgery(which enables them to transition to the opposite sex); must evaluate their choices and decide what is the best course of action for their lives. Transitioning with the help of surgery, which is a very drastic step and there's no guarantee that you'll find the happiness and contentment in your lives that you are looking for; is a step which can't be undone and you'll have to live with the consequences for the rest of your life, possibly in utter regret.
But every soul chooses their own path, whichever path you choose becomes a lesson in your journey. Ultimately, you have to come to the conclusion of what serves you. There're numerous testimonies available online in which people who transitioned to the opposite sex, regretted their decisions after a short period of time and are now living their lives without their original reproductive body parts and in utter regret. So, think very carefully about the path you want to choose.
In many cases of gender dysphoria, people are dealing with a very deep internalized self-hatred, self-rejection and low self-worth; and if self-hate is the cause, then self-acceptance and self-love is the answer.
The causes for identifying as transgender can be several, but the purpose for most transgenders as I understand it, is to love and accept themselves as they are in their bodies, and to embrace their birth genders.
If you're suffering with gender dysphoria or identify yourselves as transgender, and are willing to heal, you can book an online session with me.